Feelings of Rejection

This has got to be one of the most difficult posts for me to share, especially since it requires from me vulnerability while still dealing with emotional unease.

For the past few weeks and even months at least, I have been dealing with feeling rejected and neglected. I have faced challenges and shifts in various relationships that have left me feeling as though I’m not wanted or needed. For someone whose love language is giving of her time and talents, this new path has left me questioning my worth – a whole lot.

As I do every time I face these emotional hurdles, I take to journaling for only the Maker of the heart is able to bring peace and mending to the heart that feels broken and rejected.

As I repeatedly find myself on my knees in tears before Abba, He has been reminding me that my value nor worth is not based on others needing me and neither is it based on what I can offer to those around. You see, one of my spiritual gifts is helps and somehow, I’ve allowed my identity to be tacked to doing deeds or being there for others, instead of simply being defined by who my Master has said that I am.

Being robbed of what I feel I’m good at has left me feeling incapacitated. I have a feeling of worthlessness that screams in my ear that I’m no longer wanted and so I’m unimportant. I understand that these feelings are lies from the enemy, but have you ever felt like the lies around were choking out reason. Yes, we are armored with the truth, but be honest with me, do we walk in His truth 24/7 the way we need to?

As Holy Spirit dealt with my heart (that is oh so deceitful), He began to remind me that my value and worth is based on the fact that I’m made in the image of Abba. Period. Though I’m 50% Norman and 50% Myreta (my biological parents), I’m 100% made in the image of the One who formed me in my mama’s womb and who knew my name before the world even was called into existence.

Holy Spirit, our Teacher brought to my attention a forest of trees one day as I drove on the highway. He asked me whether a beautiful tree in the middle of the forest would have ceased to be beautiful because it was not being observed by passerby’s or recognized by fellow trees that surrounded it.

You guessed it, the answer is no. The tree would still be beautiful and would still hold its value irregardless of who saw it or who identified that it was a beauty to behold.

So are you and I, friends.

Our beauty is not based on external factors. Our worth is not based on the affirmations of those around. Our value is not based on anything we have acquired or hope to achieve. Our merit is not based on what we can do for those around or how we are able to do it. Our lives are no less important because of our ability or how we compare with those around. Let me say this – comparison is a death trap.

For mamma’s who have to let your babies go (for whatever reason); For wives who have to deal with spouses who are negligent; For husbands who have to deal with wives who are unappreciative; For folks who feel like they are merely scaffoldings to their friends; For children who feel overlooked by their parents; For all of us who at some point feel isolated and rejected; who feel from time to time neglected and overlooked; hear me and hear me well.

We have worth because He who is Worthy lives inside of us. We have worth because He whose name is Worthy formed us in His image. We have value because the Lord’s treasure is hidden inside of us. We are beautiful because we are fearfully and wonderfully made.

So, through whatever storm you may face, remember we serve a God who is with us. We serve a God who’s not phased by anything.

I continue to ask for your prayers and encouragement during this season of surrender and leave us with the following verse:

“The LORD is near to the brokenhearted, And saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:8

77 thoughts on “Feelings of Rejection

  1. You are worthy because you are Gods child. I think at some point we can relate to feeling unworthy or rejected and it is a reminder to not seek our value in anything other than our Heavenly Father.
    I loved the analogy of the beauty of the trees not ceasing just because people looked past it.
    I pray that the Lord will fill you with His love and presence and you will feel loved and cherished.
    Stay safe Dee. Love and hugs 🤗 💙.

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  2. Thank you for sharing so openly! Yes, I think we all have feelings like that. I know I have, but just as you said, we are not worthy because of what we do but because of who God says we are. You are His child, precious, wanted, loved, and adored! ❤

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    1. Awwwwww, Heather! You’re making my heart melt. It feels so good knowing I’m not alone in this sphere lol. Whew!
      So thankful that we are His simply because, we are His – chosen and yes, wanted too ❤️🤗

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  3. That forest moment with the Lord is so special. I cherish those moments. I can relate to these words as well. For the longest time I poured myself into my work for the Him, becoming a work-a-holic. Until He nudged me as well. It’s a lot more peaceful when you enjoy your job because it’s a beautiful thing to be zealous for good works. You’ll get there. He’s so amazing at shifting our perspective. I pray that you will know how deep how wide how long and how high His love is for us. May we all know how loved we are and rest at His feet. Love you sister. You have my prayers.

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    1. My sister scribbler friend 🤗
      Amen and amen to that prayer!!!
      Yes, He certainly has a way at shifting our perspectives, especially when we get consumed with doing for Him instead of simply being in Him. For some reason though this lesson for me comes over and over and over again. And with each repeat it feels equally painful. I hope to quickly pass this test for I’m weary of sitting in this classroom – redoing the test lol. Thank you for your faithful love and your devoted prayers. Abba’s blessing to you and Andrew always ❤️❤️🤗

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      1. Yes, unfortunately, I understand that too! Eventually it gets through! We get tired of fighting. And when we do we remember and give in. He will always give you all the help and attention you need, so hang in there till it happens. Peace comes after pain. (Hebrews 12:11)

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  4. Hi Dee:
    I like your words : ‘we serve a God who is with us.’
    Everything unpleasant that we experience is completely understood by Jesus, who experienced those feelings too.
    Jesus stands with us in our times of weakness.
    I will continue to hold you gently before the Lord in prayer. 🤗

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    1. Oh Sally, you’ve seen more than I can dare to imagine and I love that you always pour out your wisdom 🤗❤️
      I’m thankful we have Jesus! Especially in regards to Him being able to relate to us in every way. Sure, He’s with us but having Him being able to empathize with us – a blessing indeed.
      Thank you not ceasing to gently hold me before our Daddy in prayer. I am soooooooo grateful. 🤗🤗♥️♥️

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      1. You are in my prayers, as you know. The Holy Spirit will often bring you to my mind.
        When I was in Israel, we went to the Garden of Gethsemane. It was a time to think about how Jesus understands, best of all, what rejection feels like, and seeks so much to comfort us when we feel like this.
        Remember the hymn : ” What a friend we have in Jesus” ? That is a favourite of mine. He is our Saviour, King, brother, and friend. 🤗

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        1. Oh I’m so thankful Holy Spirit keeps me in your prayers. The effects reach all the way to my heart and home in NJ.
          I can just imagine how your heart was transported while in the Garden and being reminded of what our Savior has to endure. Surely, He has borne our grief and sorrows. He knows just what rejection is like.

          I love that hymn, Sally! I will be humming it for a while. Thank you. 🤗

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  5. A thoughtful read, Precious.

    Meanwhile, we won’t have to battle rejection when we come to see ourselves the way God sees us amd not try to measure up to people’s estimation or acceptance of our person. The knowledge of who we are in Christ radiates from inside out and inspire/births confidence in us. Also, our lives/relationships are much more better when we surround ourselves with people of like minds – who value us for who we are and what we stand for. While I do my best sustain relationships, I don’t live my life to please anyone but God. The best relationship one can ever have is with God. Meanwhile, God surrounds us with folks who help us to be the best of us.

    You are more than enough.

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  6. Precious One, your feelings of rejection and neglected remind me of Jesus’ words on the cross: “Eloi Eloi lama sabachthani?” “My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” This expression is taken from Psalm 22:1. May I suggest you isolate yourself from others and meditate on this Psalms. I know God will give you some relief. Yes, you have many good-intention followers, but only God can ease your anguish. Call on Him, my sister. Peace!

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    1. Quite so! Only He can calm any troubled waters and give the Shalom which surpasses every understanding. I’m thankful He has given us His Word, Holy Spirit and each other. Blessings always, Mother Fowler 🤗

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  7.  
    My sister thanks for being so open. I too can relate…but my encouragement to you is this: Never give up however deep the wounds of your soul, whatever their source, wherever or whenever they happen, and however short or long they persist, you will survive. There is no physical, emotional, or spiritual ailment that Christ cannot heal.
    Continue to trust God. “Cast your cares on the LORD and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous be shaken.” (Psalm 55:22)

    What satan brings for harm and destruction, God can turn around for our good! He will restore what has been lost. You are of significant worth and value. Live who you are, a precious child of the Most High God! My prayer remains with you. Sending love your way.

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      1. Glory to God my sister. We are here to help each other. It gives me great joy just to think that God used me to be of help to you. God comforts us so we can comfort others. I must admit that my ability to offer encouragement is linked to my own personal experiences.

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        1. Aha!
          Isn’t that the truth dear? When we become hurt, wounded and broken it is a tool Abba helps us to pull from to help those who have been broken, hurt and wounded. Our encouragement isn’t filled with platitudes but sincerity knowing we can truly empathize with those who’ve been where we have been.

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                1. Oooohhh. All your posts for sometime have been locked from comments. It struck me as odd because at the end you encouraged us to comment but there’s no option. Double check your settings and see.

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  8. YOU are worthy! As you mentioned the Lord accepts us no matter what. I love the analogy of the beautiful tree. It’s a blessing when others see our value, but even if they don’t, it doesn’t change the fact that we are valuable because God says so. Thanks for sharing! Love you little sister. 🌸💗

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  9. Thank you for sharing! We’ve all have felt rejection at times, whether those who reject us are family, friends, or strangers. Those moments of rejection can bring an going cycle of hurt unless we heal from them. Rejection can be painful but its effects can be decimated when we know how valuable we are to God as you beautifully wrote.

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  10. Wow. I just resonate with this post. That feeling!. Sighs.

    Glad Abba is always present to aid us through such times of our lives.

    I loved the analogy of the tree in the forest. And want you to just know that you are loved, cared for and your only identity lies in Christ. Not in you not anyone else.

    You are saved and always loved sis. You matter. ❤

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  11. Such an encouraging post!
    You are an amazing work of the Master Artist, loved intimately by Him! He delights in you!
    I understand having to sit in the same classroom over and over. I’m sure God must have something amazing to use us for in the lives of others since He’s given us the same lesson so many times.
    I have been hurt so many times by injustice, rejection, and bullying. I don’t understand why so many times? But it has thrown me into the arms of my Savior who is always Just and never rejects or bullies me. He holds me and you tenderly to His heart forever as He teaches us to walk in full surrender to Him. 💖

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    1. Oh Ruth! Whew! These tests and lessons. Oh my oh my. Through it all though I’m with you on the gratitude scale, so thankful that He never rejects nor bullies us. He is so patient and so tender with us. He is so loving and kind. So gracious and even long suffering. With each lesson, we get to experience more of Him. This week He reminded me of the Prayer of Assisi as I cried out to wanting to be understood. He gently nudged my heart and said, “seek to understand more than seeking to be understood.” Lessons dear sister 🤗❤️

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  12. You have written a beautiful post that will encourage all who read it! I love the example of the beautiful tree in the middle of the forrest. I will pray for you, Deandra! Never forget: There are many bloggers who love you and some day we will all meet. That will be a glorious day! God bless you, my friend!

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    1. Oh Ms. Cindy, thank you for pouring into my heart today, reminding me that the Lord is able to use even our sad and despondent days to encourage others as long as we keep Him at the center. I look forward to meeting you, and my fellow bloggers and sisters. ABBA’s blessings be unto you as well. 🤗

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  13. Kudos to you , Precious One, for taking your emotional pain to Father God and pouring out your heart while journaling. What has flowed from your pen is his wisdom and affirmation–needed by many. God WILL bless you for your humility and honesty in sharing (1 Peter 5:6)!

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    1. You’re very welcome.
      Thank you for stopping by and leaving your heart print. As I drift off to sleep I certainly will meditate on these: “Our Maker is our Master and only His words should matter.” Blessings to you always 🙏🏽🌺

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    1. Yesssssss sis! Isn’t that a comfort for us. His love for us can be trusted and when put to the test, always leaves us in awe and amazement. Hallelujah for a Father and Friend who remains “Faith-Full.” We will continue to lift each other in prayers always 🙏🏽

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  14. Dee, I identify. I struggled with that a good part of my life. I still battle it, at times. But I have to keep giving it over to the Lord. I have to be who he made me to be, doing what he has called me to do, even if I am ignored or rejected. He put me together in my mother’s womb because he had a design and purpose for my life which involves being rejected much. I can’t be who he created me to be, though, if I let fear of rejection overtake me. So please let that encourage you. Just be who God made you to be and don’t worry about whether people accept you or not.

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    1. Thank you, Sue. I am encouraged by two things from you tonight: your admonition to be who He has made me to be and your transparency. So many times when I feel rejected, the enemy whispers lies that I’m alone and no one gets it, especially those who are in the faith longer than I am. I’m so thankful though, that I’m not in this fight to constantly be transformed by His Word which is our truth. Now more than ever I will endeavor to not just pray for myself when I feel rejected, but for others that from time to time share this experience. My love to you always ❤️

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